GUEST BLOGGER::::RELATIONSHIP MATTERS::::::WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY HIM? by Destiny C. Iheukwumere

The many reasons for broken home and relationships nowadays is  alarming and  we at Naijagospelbeatz have decided to  take it up and its our honour to bring to you a renowned and committed Woman of God gifted and passionate in this area. Having had the opportunity of been close to her and the kind of family she has i think marriage is sweet and same is the purpose of God from the origin. Our guest author, Destiny C. Iheukwumere is the Co-ordinating Executive, Life Builders Africa Mission, a ministry committed to ministering to young people, couples, singles and communities. She facilitates various training programs, to build lives, homes and also guide people to discover their purpose and path in life in order to pursue the right career. 

Many times, we see people enter into marriage with various reasons. Men and women marry people they do not have genuine love for from inception. Not that he/she is not handsome or beautiful but the THEY LACKS SUBSTANCE - VALUES. You can measure a person by his/her values; you can weigh a man by his values; you can know where a man is going by his values and vision.

 

When a person does not have a value system you cannot know his/her direction because you cannot ascertain what he values. So my question is, “WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY HIM/HER?”

Remember that ultimately you need to give and receive happiness in marriage. If you marry for the wrong reason, happiness and fulfillment will elude you. So ladies, don't marry him out of desperation. If you cannot follow his leadership, he is not the one for you. If you are not proud of him now, you will hardly be when he becomes wealthy, because true and pure love is not based on money.

What makes him now are his PERSONAL VALUES. Does he have a value system? Does he have the future in view? Is he stable emotionally and spiritually? Is he UNDER God? Is he a WORD-DOER? Ask these questions NOW not later.

Marry a man you can follow from the moment you say yes whether he is rich or poor, for with you he can become great because you will come with the favour of the Lord. For a minute, separate your fiance from his job, wealth, position, family background. IS ANYTHING OF VALUE REMAINING? If yes then he has VALUE. But after you have separated him from his daddy's name, his job, position, wealth and nothing remains then you have a mirage in your hands.

If you are engaged to him and you can make decisions now without him, it means he has nothing to contribute. So why are you with him? Even if you have a better job and you earn more, if you are proud of him, if you respect him, his opinion will count and you will ask for his opinion. Remember THINGS don't make a man, VALUES make a man. His values will tell you who he is even when he is saying something else to you. Pay attention to his values.

Don't marry him to change him, you will be disappointed. He can only make some adjustments if he loves you but you can hardly change his belief system. Marry him because you love him; marry him because you can follow him; marry him because you trust in his love for you; marry him because you believe in him, his vision and aspirations in life; marry him because in your eyes he is the most handsome man; marry him because he is the one man you want your children to be like.

 

Don't marry him because of what he can do for you, marry him because of who he is; marry him and be willing to  give him the needed support to achieve his dreams so that his voice to be heard at the gates - gates of nations. Marry him because you can be with him when his face begins to sag, his belly comes out a bit, his teeth are no longer as white, his bank accounts are no longer big....MARRY HIM FOR HIM....

So the question you need to ask yourself and answer sincerely is WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY HIM? When you sincerely answer this question then you have been found by your man .You can now say yes to him.

Hold on here till next week.